"There is... a crack in everything,
That's how the light gets in."
- Leonard Cohen
Experiencing loss, trauma, or upheaval can erode our sense of identity, destabilize our relationships, and impact our ability to function. Sometimes it can feel like we're interacting with the world from behind a glass barrier, able to look out but not actually connect. Or it might put us on high alert, shifting our nervous system into overdrive and making us feel on edge and exhausted at the same time.
Often we think we've put our past behind us, but our bodies tell a different story. Trauma rewires our brain, wreaks havoc on the nervous system, and causes tension and blockages in various parts of the body. The healing process asks us to engage our intuition, tune into our body, and listen. Through curiosity and compassionate noticing, we can learn what parts of ourselves most need our attention and care.
Sometimes, the effects of trauma or toxic stress knock us down like a giant wave. Other times, they can be more covert.
It's normal to feel a sense of doubt about the legitimacy of your experience. You might have even received direct or indirect messages that you're supposed to be over it by now. Minimizing the impacts of distressing experiences is a common coping response that can prevent us from getting the help we need. Our productivity-based society trains us to invalidate ourselves and our needs, but your experience is real. You deserve to heal.